Laney Katz Becker is an award-winning author, writer, and a former literary agent. Her books include the novels, In the Family Way and Dear Stranger, Dearest Friend, and the nonfiction anthology, Three Times Chai, a collection of rabbis’ favorite stories. When she’s not writing, Becker enjoys
drawing, sewing, reading, long walks, playing tennis, and canasta. She is a graduate of Northwestern University, raised her two children in Westchester County, New York, and currently lives on the east coast of Florida with her husband and their Havanese.
My Q&A with the author:
How much work does your title do to take the readers into the story?
I think my book title, In the Family Way, does a lot of heavy lifting when it comes
to communicating what my novel is about. First, the expression itself is a
somewhat antiquated euphemism for saying a woman is pregnant. And while it
may not alert readers that my book is set in the 1960s, it (hopefully) is a pretty
clear indicator that it’s not a contemporary novel. My working title was With
Child, which I also think says “historical,” but I changed it because I really
preferred the word “family.” It has a warmth to it which gives it an added bonus for
readers who may be unfamiliar with the expression “in the family way;” they’d
still know the book involves families and a sense of community. And since, at its
heart, my novel is about the friendship between a group of suburban
housewives—and an unwed 15-year-old mother-to-be—I felt family was the
perfect descriptor!
What’s in a name?
It’s a Jewish custom to name babies after those who’ve already passed away, rather
than someone who is still living, (which is why you don’t meet young Jewish men
who share their dad’s name). Anyway…my novel is narrated by three different
voices (all in the same time period) and two of the narrators are sisters and are
Jewish. They’re named Lily and Rose. Their mother named them after relatives
who’d died, but giving them both “flower names” was her added twist. It was a
way to help the reader know a little bit about the mother, even though she has died
years before the novel opens. It was also a practical decision as I felt it would help
readers keep the characters straight, particularly at the beginning when everyone is
being introduced. Another thing about names in my book that readers will surely
realize: My chapter titles for the married women all use their husband’s first
names and their married surnames—so there’s Mrs. David Berg, and Mrs. Marty
Siegel, because it was 1965 which was before the women’s movement, when
women/housewives didn’t have their own identities. Under each “Mrs.” name is
the woman’s actual name, but it’s in smaller type and in parenthesis, appearing as
(Lily) or (Rose). The type is actually helping to convey that the women are
parenthetical to their husbands, and smaller in stature. (I absolutely love that
something as simple as type can convey so much!)
Do you find it harder to write beginnings or endings? Which do you change
more?
Beginnings are harder for me and I definitely futz with them a lot more. I think
that’s especially true because I tend to write my novels in a linear order…and
while I might have a pretty good idea where I’m going, I typically make myself
wait until I’m at least half-way through my first draft before I allow myself to write
the ending. Then I go back and pick up where I left off and start writing in order
again. By the time I finish my first draft, I know my characters so much better than
when I started. So, as I work my way through my second draft, I find myself
reading dialogue and thinking “she would never say” or discovering actions she
would/wouldn’t take. But only after writing 300ish pages do I have the confidence
that I know—I truly know—exactly how a character would behave. And that
means rewriting the opening. Again.
Do you see much of yourself in your characters? Do they have any connection
to your personality, or are they a world apart?
I think there’s a bit of me in all of my characters. But in this novel I needed a
strong matriarchal Jewish grandma, so I not only based her on my own Grandma
Mollie, I actually named her Grandma Mollie. But I didn’t stop there. Hoping my
kids and grandkids—and any other offspring who may be born after I’ve passed
away—would maybe (?) have a copy of my novel, I gave my own Grandma
Mollie’s backstory to the character of Grandma Mollie, assuring that future
generations would know from where they come. In short, I memorialized my
grandma because that’s the joy of being an author—you can do that sort of thing
because you’re in charge…and unless someone like you asks me about it, no one is
the wiser!
What non-literary inspirations have influenced your writing?
In the Family Way was inspired by politics, for sure. I came up with the idea after
the Supreme Court handed down the Dobbs decision, overturning Roe v. Wade and
a woman’s constitutional right to abortion care. When that occurred, I was watching the news and saw a 20-something protestor holding a sign that said We
Cannot Go Back. I scoffed, thinking she wasn’t old enough to appreciate what
times were like “back then.” I did some research to fill in my own memories about
women’s in the 1960s. Then I decided that someone really should write a book
about it so women today would appreciate how far we’ve come, but also recognize
that these days we’re on a slippery slope. And then I remembered Toni Morrison’s
advice when she said “If there's a book that you want to read, but it hasn't been
written yet, then you must write it.” So I did.
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--Marshal Zeringue